i think i'm ready to get married now. are you?
so, i have to apologize to my Brother, if he's reading this. it isnt meant to be [too] disparaging. just an illustrative/explorative piece...
aright so i was talking to the aforementioned Brother (yawn, with a soft J) the other day, trying to figure out some more ideas to toss my parents for the christmas/hannukah time...BTM (thats the Mom) starts asking me in like mid-august, so i really have to stay on top of things.
naturally i dont get out shopping much, so i dont know what i want or need. probably i need nothing, but theres a lot of worthless clothes, gadgets, and/or trinkets im sure i could convince myself of. then theres big stuff like a new bed, furniture, etc that i dont "need" but probably want.
anyways i dont know why i started rambling, except that im ADD and cant focus on anything for more than a few seconds...which is why im writing this amidst studying. its a miracle i made it through school.
so i ask The Brother if he had any ideas, and he excitedly answered in the affirmative. he and his wife want a "collective present" from whoever is doing the giving of gifts, i guess. what do they want? a fridge. a new fridge. take a few minutes to let that sink in. how did we so quickly go from the joyous frivolity of christmas time to practical shit like a fridge? not only that, but he said to me, and i quote, "man i really get excited about stuff like this" when i tried to yoke around with him.
i kind of wanted to light myself on fire
as i recall, the last few gift-giving occasions for him, since marriage (and actually pre-marriage, b/c they got married in january) involved entirely too much home depot. sprinklers, yard equipment, shovels i think, a gift card [which is lovely].
who sucked out the feeling?
not only has The Brother gone totally adult and domestic, he enjoys it. it seems like every present he wants is in terms of "us" [The Brother and his wife], rather than him. are you not allowed to be selfish at all when you get married? not EVERYTHING has to be boring and practical does it?
a couple other marriage-related notes:
they recently got a puppy. using my quick bruce dickinson instinct, i called him out on it being 100% her idea. you guessed'er, chester. i was right, but i quickly heard "but i am totally into it now" right after that. its the "fist of rage" (rushofadrenalin) facesaver, qualifying something absurd like that. i have no doubt that the puppy is cute and delightful, but why must you be cajoled into something like that. there's nothing mutual about giving in to someone else's idea if youre not into it. i dont care how much you try to hard sell me, im not gonna believe you were into the idea, but thanks for stopping by.
on a puppy-related note, The Brother and i used to workout together, and even when we didnt workout together, we would occasionally swap war stories and exchange ideas on what we were doing in our workouts. so i asked him how it was going, and he said he doesnt go as often b/c of the puppy. you know, cant leave a puppy in the house. "now i know why parents get fat" he said. i love it.
hmm, marriage. let's see: i cant be selfish any more. i lose a majority of my autonomy. i get domestic presents and fixtures for the house ("our" house). legally im not supposed to hook up with anyone else [notice how i didnt say "i cant"]. i dont have as much time to be vain.
uhh, yeah. im gonna find the next decent chick i meet and marry her immediately. i cant wait to sign up for that!
i think i prefer my life of selfishness and immaturity, where i can sit around all day and do nothing if i want, leave my apartment a mess, go on cruises with my boys, hook up with random chicks, and think about stuff like designer jeans, some new kicks, a few dvds, and booze as possible presents.
what was the downside to being a bachelor again?
I was harassing a co-worker about being married and she said, "well, at least I know I'm getting some tonight, guaranteed." My response; "Me too."
there's no upside to prison. i'm just not buying it.
thats the face-save special of married people. at least i know im getting some!
how many people you know have been married more than a couple years and can still say this with confidence and veracity? its close to zero, guaranteed.
if "guaranteed" play is why you got married, you obviously missed a lot in school.
maybe you should enroll in the red n mesh school of indoctrination
aright so i was talking to the aforementioned Brother (yawn, with a soft J) the other day, trying to figure out some more ideas to toss my parents for the christmas/hannukah time...BTM (thats the Mom) starts asking me in like mid-august, so i really have to stay on top of things.
naturally i dont get out shopping much, so i dont know what i want or need. probably i need nothing, but theres a lot of worthless clothes, gadgets, and/or trinkets im sure i could convince myself of. then theres big stuff like a new bed, furniture, etc that i dont "need" but probably want.
anyways i dont know why i started rambling, except that im ADD and cant focus on anything for more than a few seconds...which is why im writing this amidst studying. its a miracle i made it through school.
so i ask The Brother if he had any ideas, and he excitedly answered in the affirmative. he and his wife want a "collective present" from whoever is doing the giving of gifts, i guess. what do they want? a fridge. a new fridge. take a few minutes to let that sink in. how did we so quickly go from the joyous frivolity of christmas time to practical shit like a fridge? not only that, but he said to me, and i quote, "man i really get excited about stuff like this" when i tried to yoke around with him.
i kind of wanted to light myself on fire
as i recall, the last few gift-giving occasions for him, since marriage (and actually pre-marriage, b/c they got married in january) involved entirely too much home depot. sprinklers, yard equipment, shovels i think, a gift card [which is lovely].
who sucked out the feeling?
not only has The Brother gone totally adult and domestic, he enjoys it. it seems like every present he wants is in terms of "us" [The Brother and his wife], rather than him. are you not allowed to be selfish at all when you get married? not EVERYTHING has to be boring and practical does it?
a couple other marriage-related notes:
they recently got a puppy. using my quick bruce dickinson instinct, i called him out on it being 100% her idea. you guessed'er, chester. i was right, but i quickly heard "but i am totally into it now" right after that. its the "fist of rage" (rushofadrenalin) facesaver, qualifying something absurd like that. i have no doubt that the puppy is cute and delightful, but why must you be cajoled into something like that. there's nothing mutual about giving in to someone else's idea if youre not into it. i dont care how much you try to hard sell me, im not gonna believe you were into the idea, but thanks for stopping by.
on a puppy-related note, The Brother and i used to workout together, and even when we didnt workout together, we would occasionally swap war stories and exchange ideas on what we were doing in our workouts. so i asked him how it was going, and he said he doesnt go as often b/c of the puppy. you know, cant leave a puppy in the house. "now i know why parents get fat" he said. i love it.
hmm, marriage. let's see: i cant be selfish any more. i lose a majority of my autonomy. i get domestic presents and fixtures for the house ("our" house). legally im not supposed to hook up with anyone else [notice how i didnt say "i cant"]. i dont have as much time to be vain.
uhh, yeah. im gonna find the next decent chick i meet and marry her immediately. i cant wait to sign up for that!
i think i prefer my life of selfishness and immaturity, where i can sit around all day and do nothing if i want, leave my apartment a mess, go on cruises with my boys, hook up with random chicks, and think about stuff like designer jeans, some new kicks, a few dvds, and booze as possible presents.
what was the downside to being a bachelor again?
I was harassing a co-worker about being married and she said, "well, at least I know I'm getting some tonight, guaranteed." My response; "Me too."
there's no upside to prison. i'm just not buying it.
thats the face-save special of married people. at least i know im getting some!
how many people you know have been married more than a couple years and can still say this with confidence and veracity? its close to zero, guaranteed.
if "guaranteed" play is why you got married, you obviously missed a lot in school.
maybe you should enroll in the red n mesh school of indoctrination
posted by bruce dickinson at 10/28/2006 08:25:00 AM
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